Why waiting and wanting is bad for your health

Dr Seuss was a great one to acknowledge we are often waiting.

Waiting for the fish to bite or waiting for wind to fly a kite.. or a better break or a string of pearls… or another chance. Everyone is just waiting.

What I know for sure is that waiting for opportunities or our luck to change is a sound antidote for happiness. We know that if we focus on what we haven’t got or what other people have that we don’t, it doesn’t illicit happiness. In fact, the opposite is true. I love the saying that ‘someone else is praying for the things that you have.’  It reminds us that whatever reality we are living in it may well be a parallel universe compared to someone else’s life.

Recently, our son broke his leg and we were initially told 12 weeks in a cast. A long time and a bit of an impediment for a six year old highly active, sporty kid to be in a full cast and wheelchair.  A lot of people we spoke to said ‘I bet you are all counting down the days’ which is a completely natural reaction and a place you can easily go BUT a sure fire way to put you in that waiting place.

What I have noticed is that while Flynn certainly had his moments of frustration, most of the time he adapted really well and focused on what he could do and how to enjoy life. That’s most kid’s natural response right? As adults, we are already two weeks ahead thinking about some future event and how we will manage or being annoyed at what we missed out on the week before. Flynn’s missed out on a few parties, he can’t play rugby or soccer (which took up 80 percent of his free time) but he can do heaps of other stuff. He knows it is only temporary and he’s making the most of the additional time playing yahtzee or watching sports on television with glee.

As adults, we’ve forgotten how to have this response, and yes, we undoubtedly have more responsibilities, burdens, commitments, conflicts but we can still think about our situation / health / wellbeing differently. Our bodies have a strong desire to be healthy, to find health or to get back to health. The ‘knowing’ and way to get there comes from inside us all but often we are often too busy, distracted or out of touch to recognise it. A parallel with the aviation industry (where I have come from) is that if you don’t put on your oxygen mask first you can’t help anyone else.

Taking care of ourselves, putting ourselves first and having some time to ‘be’ rather than ‘do’ will all support wellbeing. Changing the way we think can change the way we feel and yet, changing the way we feel can change the way we think too. It’s a vicious and virtuous circle when we are engaging with wellbeing and health. Craniosacral therapy is a whole systems approach that supports both physical and mental wellbeing and sometimes we all need a bit of support.

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